Mastering the First Kiss


by Sabrina Cohen

The lines between gender roles are becoming increasingly blurred, but when it comes to that coveted first kiss, it’s still generally considered a man’s move to make. I spoke to several single women who all agreed that mastering the first kiss experience is as simple as avoiding these potentially tragic pitfalls.


First kisses can be nerve-wracking, even for the most confident lady-killers. It’s all about timing. Don’t go for it when the cab is pulled over in honking traffic or while she’s mid-sentence. The best kisses occur in moments of electrifying chemistry. Look for consistent exchanges of flirtatious smiles and strong eye contact. If you overthink the delivery, it may seem contrived or worse—cheesy. Your best bet is to be au natural.


Sometimes we can work our way over this hurdle, and other times it’s a hopeless endeavor. Many women (and men) equate skills in the kissing department to skills in the bedroom. Kissing like you did in 7th grade or like you’re the star of a porn flick—NOT a turn-on! If you’re lucky enough to get one on a first date, slow, soft, and steady typically wins the first kiss race.


It happens… to some more than others. A first date warrants your very best, so a good night kiss laced with the scent of anything other than Altoids or minty fresh gum is just downright unforgivable. Brush, floss, gargle, and then go for yours!

What are your rules of engagement? Are you guilty of any of these first-kiss crimes? Please share your thoughts below.

Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for



Filed under Date Etiquette, Dating Tips

5 responses to “Mastering the First Kiss

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  2. All 3 points are solid Sabrina.

    Also, guys need to realize that when going for the 1st. kiss, they should have already been close to the girl where proximity is close. Going for the kiss from far away as in across the table (a long or wide table) would actually kill the momentum and the smoothness of it.

    I actually seen this happened on a episode of Millionaire Matchmaker with Patti Stanger, where a guy had went to kiss his date from far across the table and the girl recoiled and didn’t kiss him. Had he closed that gap by sitting closer ahead of the attempted kiss, it would’ve been ok.

    • Sabrina Cohen

      So true Kenny! I agree, proximity is key. I think a woman usually gives enough signaling with her body language to invite a man to make the move. Love that show by the way…lots of lessons learned by watching others.

      • That’s true. Good points. In the pickup community, we call those signs she may give off when she wants to be kissed IOI’s. It’s nice to have a guy who knows how to read between the lines.

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