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Dater Profiles: The Paperboy

by Sabrina Cohen

Check out other daters Sabrina has profiled: Dater Profiles.

We all think we know what we want: A man at least 6′ tall, with dark hair and a six figure salary; A curvy woman with a master’s degree, blue eyes, and a dazzling smile.

But as the adage goes—looks can be deceiving.

Take, for example, The Paperboy.

On paper, he was everything I thought I wanted: sexy, educated, fit, stylish, successful, and fun. But after a few months, I realized there wasn’t much beneath the surface. I also realized that his paper traits had blindsided me to the truth.

After I broke it off, I wondered who else among those that appeared to “have it all” really did. I also wondered how many people get seduced by the mirage like I did. Or worse, who among us is actually living the smoke and mirrors: bettering our “paper selves” in the hopes that we’ll appear more desirable?

In other words, how many of us sacrifice inner authenticity for an outer marketing aura? For the ones that do, is keeping up appearances worth the effort?

There’s nothing that stands in for a person who makes you feel grounded, acknowledged, cared for, and truly known—especially when the “you” that person knows is the one beyond your paper persona.

Have you ever been hoodwinked by a fantasy? Tell us about it.

Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for MarketSmiths.com.

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Dater Profiles: The Interviewer

by Sabrina Cohen

Internet dating is like riding a rollercoaster—fun and frightening all at once! Having experienced my fair share of peaks and valleys, I’ve encountered all kinds of men. I’ve also made classic mistakes. I’ll be profiling different types of daters in this new MeetMoi series: DATER PROFILES

DATER PROFILE: THE INTERVIEWER

Last summer, I chose a local carnival as the setting for a first date. I thought the atmosphere would lighten the potential awkwardness of a first conversation. Before I could say “cotton candy,” he fired away with question after question. After the tenth one, I handed him a mock microphone: he didn’t take the hint. The probing was a turnoff.

Some of us revel in peeling back the layers on a first date. Others approach it like Barbara Walters: armed with questions, pop quizzes, even skepticism. My advice? Be in the moment.

Find the balance between engaging and investigating. There’s a natural ebb and flow to the discovery process, and it should feel genuine for both parties. We all want to avoid wasting time, but misplaced curiosity doesn’t just kill romance… it kills the fun!

Have you ever been “interviewed” on a date? Share your thoughts below.

Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for MarketSmiths.com.

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