by Sabrina Cohen
What do you call it when a committed couple agrees to see others outside their immediate bond? An open relationship, of course.
Seen from one viewpoint, open relationships require immaturity—and a serious yen for adventure. Seen from another, they’re a natural extension of our real world attraction to others, and require—ironically—an even deeper maturity, connection, forthrightness, and understanding.
On the pro side, new partners can provide a needed sexual boost. They can administer fresh attention, companionship, and even challenge. They broaden the horizon—be it emotionally, sexually, and even intellectually.
But there are just as many reasons to avoid an arrangement that some might see as a land mine. To name a few: jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and romantic attachment.
If you’re considering an open relationship, think about these parameters:
- Make sure both of you are on board. Persuasion or manipulation will likely backfire.
- Establish solid ground rules.
- Be honest with your new partners. Let them in on your arrangement.
- If you’re new, venture forth slow and steadily. Experiment and enjoy, but keep a close eye on everyone’s comfort zone.
- Maintain your respect and communication for each other, and not least your honesty toward yourself.
In short, open relationships can be an exciting way to spice up your relationship and build self-awareness. But they’re not for everyone, so proceed with caution.
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Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for MarketSmiths.com.