Serial Daters: Playing The Field Or Playing It Safe?

by Sabrina Cohen

Are you a one-date wonder wading aimlessly through the dating pool, stopping just long enough to find fault with every potential fish that passes by? Are you a perpetual player or just playing it safe?

In my eyes, there’s never a right time to pursue a relationship you know isn’t right. But there’s a difference between standing for what you want and having unrealistic expectations. Is it just that you haven’t found “the one” yet, or are you plagued by perfectionism?

Here’s how you can tell the difference:

  1. Trust your body over your mind: By “body” I mean intuition. Be rational, but indulge gut instincts over analytical judgments. Ever feel something you can’t put a finger on? Trusting that may lead you to someone you wouldn’t have thought to consider.
  2. Identify resistance: Is it the feeling that this person isn’t right for you, or is it plain old fear (of commitment, being hurt, hurting someone else)? Is there a real lack of connection, or are you prematurely selling yourself on why it wouldn’t work out? Awareness is key. Stop to take a hard look and insert brutal honesty.
  3. Adopt the “no risk, no reward” mentality: Sometimes a leap of faith outside your comfort zone can surprise you into opening up in a way you haven’t before. If you’re questioning your feelings, give it the benefit of the doubt—take a chance and go on another date!

Ever been caught up in a serial dating cycle? How did you get off the wheel? Share your insights below!

Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for


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