POSITIVITY: The Secret to a Successful Dating Profile

By Sabrina Cohen. Sabrina Cohen is a blogger, copywriter, and creative consultant for MarketSmiths.com.

If you’re old enough to vote, chances are you’ve experienced the dark side of dating. Rejection. Confusion. Disappointment. Doubt. Rage. Heartbreak.

Instead of committing to a life of celibacy, you opt to stay in the game. Why? You suddenly see a platform for change. A way to inform the masses and change the dating world forever… your MeetMoi profile!

In your pent-up stupor, you craft what you think is a passionate profile. In reality, it’s more like a dating manifesto, complete with the bitter rantings of an Alanis Morissette song (circa 1995). It likely includes something along the lines of…

LADIES: “FYI guys, it is NOT ok to offer dinner at your favorite neighborhood restaurant and then direct the taxi to your apartment instead! WTF?”

GENTS: “Look ladies, real love can’t be measured by the size of a man’s… um, stock portfolio! ”

It’s certainly tempting to vent our frustrations about dating dramas. We’ve all been there.

But before you unleash your wrath, consider how 500 words of emotional outrage would look spewed across your screen. Not attractive. Even subtle negativity can be a turnoff.

Never forget—the audience you’re preaching to is also the audience you’re courting. It’s like telling your boss you hate your job and then asking for a raise. Crazytown!

Profiles are meant to highlight your best assets. If yours reeks of scorn and cynicism, not many people will want to investigate the product behind your pitch.

Your ability to stay positive in the face of it all says a lot about your personality and your endurance. If you’ve eaten dating dirt and can still come out swinging for the fences, your confidence and strength will prove to be weapons of mass attraction—while negativity will just bring you more of the same.

So take another look at your MeetMoi profile—or ask an unbiased member of the opposite sex. Any negativity lurking? Strip it out, and let us know what you find.

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14 responses to “POSITIVITY: The Secret to a Successful Dating Profile

  1. singlewhitefemaledating

    Great advice… I certainly feel that everyone has room for improvement regarding their online profiles (including me). We all feel that finding that special someone is a priority in life (or at least important) yet we don’t take the time to develop the skills of attracting the “right” person in an online environment. A great photo (natural) a lovely introduction about yourself and then the nuts and bolts (sounds simple)???

    • Agreed! I notice many profiles are lacking in effort and it always makes me shake my head. For me, a great photo isn’t enough. There’s so much competition out there. In the online world especially, we want to see some substance. If it’s too much effort for someone to sell themselves in a profile, what does that say about their commitment to finding a relationship in general? Thanks for reiterating.

  2. singlewhitefemaledating

    Reblogged this on Single White Female Dating and commented:
    Online dating; sell yourself… great advice about your dating profile!!!! ENJOY 😀

  3. I can’t say that I disagree with Sabrina on this one. It’s really rare to run across a chic who gives decent advice on online dating though, since it’s always the same generic advice.

    • Much appreciated Kenny! I like to think my experiences (good and bad) have given me relatable perspective. Stay tuned for more of that from me. Would love to get your thoughts on future posts!

      • Sounds good. Your previous posts are up my alley also. But make no mistakes about; I’m a Pick-Up artist instructor, and we can be pretty unconvention when it comes to dating advice, so we will butt heads a lot.
        Sent from my BlackBerry® device

  4. Yes I agree – positivity is vital but so too is adding your picture to your profile or better still your video. Reputable sites such as http://www.attracion.com offer this as well as video chat which is essential before arranging a first date.

    • That’s a given in my world Derek… I don’t ever respond to someone without a picture. That may just be my personal preference but I’m pretty sure it’s a widespread prerequisite. Thanks for your comment!

  5. Hey Sabrina, decent post you have here. I just wrote an online-dating tutorial the other day for my blog, and the concept of making someone want to check out your profile is heavily part of my concept.

    • That’s great Kenny! Seems like it shouldn’t be rocket science, but as the popularity of online dating grows, we’re all learning what works as we go. Keep exploring and sharing in the conversation.

      • Without a doubt. Thanks!
        I do have my reservations about online dating though, in the sense that it’s killing genuine interactions as the 2 persons communicate primarily via texts. Well, this’ the age we’re in I guess.
        Sent from my BlackBerry® device

  6. I know! It’s a love-hate thing I think we all have. I look at it as another way to meet people, but I still value the old-school steps that should follow… phone call, meet-up, etc.

    I think it is the age we’re in, and in my experience, even guys I meet offline are more inclined to text. To me, a call is the easiest way to earn points off the bat. So are you following or fighting the trend? Sounds like a new post in the making. Haha. Break the mold Kenny!

    • And it’s so timely that you said that (old-school steps), because I’m planning on writing a post on just that. Also, issue with most of us is that we don’t know how to transition from online to phone (guys have this prob’).
      Sent from my BlackBerry® device

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