By Natasha Burton
Dating has changed significantly in the past few years, as forming relationships digitally has become the new norm. But no matter how much the game of love has evolved, some old-fashioned rules can still apply. Here are five such stipulations and why they remain valid even today.
1. A guy should meet his date at her door.
If a man goes to a woman’s house to pick her up for the date (whether by car or on foot) he should, to be polite, meet her at her front door, not text her from the street — or, worse yet, honk his horn to indicate his arrival. An antiquated as it might seem, approaching the door if still an important act of courtesy and can speak volumes about a man’s character, or lack there of. It’s the little things that can matter most, after all.
2. The guy should pay for the first date.
Yes, women make their own money today and most of us certainly don’t need a man to take care of us — let alone pay for our cup of coffee — but on your first meet-up, the man should at least offer to take the check when it arrives. However you ultimately choose to handle the check is immaterial: By grabbing the check first, a guy shows he is a gentleman (or knows how to act like one) and that he is unlikely to freeload off you in the future.
3. You shouldn’t sleep together on the first date.
While this rule might seem prudish, it stands because sex can shift the tone of a budding relationship whether or not you want it to or not. If a causal relationship is what you’re after, then sex it up as soon as you want. But know that taking things a bit slower will allow you and your intro some time to get to know each other as people, not just as sexual partners, which more often than not, can make the sexual part more meaningful and less awkward when you do decide to get it on.
4. Whoever sets up the second date should give the other person at least 24 hours notice.
Meeting your Intro for the first time might have been spur of the moment, but you might want to give your date at least a day’s notice if you decide you’d like to see him/her again. Planning ahead for your second date shows your Intro that you value his or her time and that you’re interested enough to want to carve out some space in your schedule for the two of you to get to know each other further. Making your date a priority speaks volumes about your intentions: If you’re truly interested, give some notice.
5. You should have “the talk” when you’re ready to make the relationship “official.”
Having “the talk” can feel a bit forced — to the point that you might feel like you don’t even need to have it at all — but it will allow both you and the person you’ve been seeing a chance to make sure you’re on the same page when you’re ready to make the relationship monogamous, either sexually, emotionally or both. Going “steady” might be a thing of the past, but becoming “official” is still an important step in taking your relationship to the next level.